Diary of v chennaihttp://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/Diary of v chennaien-usThoughtsOur thoughts are very powerful. If we believe good things would happen, only good things would happen to us. If we entertain fears in our minds, the negative event would eventualy happen. So, we need to stay positive, strong and focussed in our thoughts.

Few do's for healthy thoughts & good life

1) Whatever happens (good or seemingly bad) , happens with a meaning

2) Live in the present.

3) Believe future would be better and accept future is unpredictable.

4) Love all.

We must remember that our lives are dictated by our thoughts. We must learn to control our thoughts.

]]>Mon, 11 Aug 2008 17:38:45 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/08/11/Thoughts-1.htmlIntimacyWhen your eyes close,

our hearts open up.

When our lips meet,

our feelings become one.

When I hold you close,

Peace surrounds us both.

When I see your face,

I see the intensity of your emotions.

Pain or pleasure? I wonder and ask,

Your smile speaks louder than any word could.

]]>Fri, 25 Jul 2008 10:57:30 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/25/Intimacy-1.htmlContrastsEach and every human being is unique. We all have different perspectives, beliefs and experiences in our lives.

Let me try to explain my thinking process (assuming there is process in my thinking).

Whenever I see rain, I think of sunshine. Without rains, we wont be appreciating sunshine and vice versa. Whenever we have powercuts, I realise how dependent we are towards electricity. Whenever I see the gentle moon, I am reminded of the fiery sun. The world is full of contrasts and the contrasts makes the world an exciting place.

No wonder, I always marvel at the contrast between the male and female species. So it is natural that I am very much attracted to the womenfolk. It is just my nature, you see. I am born this way.

]]>Fri, 18 Jul 2008 16:55:29 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/07/18/Contrasts-1.htmlChennai rainsLooking outside my office window, I could see the rain drops gently caressing the mother earth. It was not a heavy downpour but a mild drizzle at best. Yet there is a welcome relief from the scorching heat that we experienced in most part of May. Certainly the season has changed. The worst of summer is over for now. The summer would be back next year with a vengeance. So too would be the subsequent monsoon and winter. Our lives are also very much like the seasonal changes. Oru lives follow the same cyclical pattern. When we are on a high, let us stay happy and enjoy the moments. When we are on a low, we must remember that the life cycle too would turn for the better.

So stay happy no matter whether you are on a high or a low.

]]>Tue, 10 Jun 2008 15:57:26 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/06/10/Chennai-rains.htmlWho communicates betterTue, 03 Jun 2008 10:37:48 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/06/03/Who-communicates-better-1.htmlMen and womenSat, 31 May 2008 18:58:14 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/05/31/Men-and-women-1.htmlI can affordI can afford to lose anything...

I can lose my money, my wealth

And all that I consider valuable.

As long as I have not lost

my ability to create, love and laugh.

]]>Tue, 27 May 2008 15:03:33 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/05/27/I-can-afford-1.htmlDream lover - Part 2A dream lover is one who can touch your senses without touching you.

A dream lover is one who always gives you more than you can ask for.

A dream lover is one you will never get bored of.

A dream lover is one who makes you feel satisfied and contended in life.

A dream lover is one who makes you feel worthy and wanted.

A dream lover is one who can change your simple moments to dreams.

Ok, enough. I don't want to make a tall claim that I am a dream lover or something like that. But I would like to make an attempt towards being one. Can one of you please help me in fulfilling my life ambition. This is the purpose of my existence, reason for living and meaning of my life. Come, let us live a dream.

PS: Most of you expressed confidence that I would a get a gf at the end of Dream Lover part 1. But I guess my closure skills were very bad and I could never get one.

]]>Sun, 20 Apr 2008 12:25:07 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/04/20/Dream-lover-Part-2-1.htmlTaken in hand - Part 2The missionary position appeals to many Taken In Hand women for the same reason some other women thoroughly dislike it: because the man-on-top is the male-superior position. The Taken In Hand women has no such inner conflict about the idea of masculine power. Indeed, she is as drawn to it as some women are repulsed by it. And instead of fighting it, she finds it erotic, fun, a source of deep joy and contentment.

And yes, for many a Taken In Hand woman, lying on her back, exposed, vulnerable, receptive, trusting him, there for him, accepting him, accepting his authority, accepting his power as a man, accepting his dominance, being pinned under her man's imprisoning weight, unable to escape until he allows it, looking up at him with soft submissive eyes as he enters her in the male-superior position the missionary position feels physically and psychologically right

When a Taken In Hand woman knows that her man is going to take her, she responds. Her body and soul are receptive, thrilled, wanting and welcoming her man. Ecstatic. In this one moment, she may go from feeling tired, stressed, distracted, or grumpy, to craving her man with an unparalleled intensity. When a man takes his woman, he takes possession of her. He acts, he dominates, he penetrates. And when he does, his Taken In Hand woman accepts, submits, receives.

The missionary position is, or can be, a natural, clear and easy expression of male dominance and female acceptance of that dominance. The woman is literally under him just as she is under his authority. It is not a position in which many Taken In Hand women would fear they were being put in the dominant position. It is not a position requiring a lot of elaborate effort for the couple to feel the masculine-feminine polarity, the man's power, and the willing surrender to that power by the woman. It is a position in which a woman can easily experience her man as being very manly, masterful, in control. And it is a position in which a man can experience his woman as being very feminine, vulnerable, soft and submissive.

]]>Wed, 16 Apr 2008 03:59:15 +0530http://vchennai2000.rediffiland.com/blogs/2008/04/16/Taken-in-hand-Part-2-1.htmlCause and effectCreating wealth is a very noble thing. These days, it is very fashionable for many to say that I am not money minded and all that. In reality, a person who loves to create wealth is not exactly money minded. He may end up making money too but that is not his end goal. His or her primary goal is to create wealth, which is adding value. Stealing wealth in any form is what a money minded person will do. That is wrong. Stealing other's ideas or other people's credit is also equivalent to stealing their wealth.

Ability to add value to society is the cause. Wealth is the effect.

Similarly, a loving mind is the cause for many great relationships. Relationship is just the effect. Just because there are some troubles in relationship, it does not mean that love is gone. Love is more an internal feeling. Being good is love. Feeling good is love.

Focus on causes and not on effects. We have control over causes only. We can only improve our ability to add value or we can become better loving individuals. If we do that, wealth and relationships will chase us. When we chase wealth and relationships, they run away from us.

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